10 Skills for Getting the SUCCESS YOU WANT! (Part 1)

October 19, 2006

Everyone wants to be successful in whatever they do. Students want to be successful in their academics where they obtain the best grades, working professionals want to achieve success which are determined by promotions and pay raises, even parents want to be successful in parenting where they want to educate their children and hopefully see them grow up to be conscientious, good and well, successful individuals.

But there are skills which you need in order for you to continuously achieve the success you want. These skills do not ensure that you do not encounter failures but at least, they guarantee that you are on the path of success.

In this 4 part series, I’m going to share with you what these 10 skills are and as I reveal them to you through the next few blog posts, I hope that you’ll learn to apply them as soon as possible in order for you to start you off on your journey of success.


Just like how the name states, it is to file your success. If you’re wondering what I mean by that, well, that is to remember, to note down or to file the incidents where you enjoyed success. It’s often when I ask people, “what are your achievements?” or “what are you good at?” and they get stumped when I ask them to list 20 incidents where they were successful or they achieved something. Most are able to provide me with at most 5 items.

It is important that you remember the occasions where you are successful. Be it to successfully take a scary rollercoaster ride even though you are scared of heights or to successfully finish a course of medication over a month. Little successes when remembered actually help you to go a long way because you realize that you are capable of success or achieving something for yourself or even for others.

Remembering success boosts our confidence which is the key element needed to ensure our success. And having a confidence ensures a good start to our success. As the saying goes, a good start is half the battle won.


Learning is the process where you gain knowledge and having knowledge empowers you with the basics to achieving success. You must remember that in order to be successful, you must learn not only from your mistakes but also from people around you – learn from their mistakes or experiences and listen to their advice.

I’m going to share with you the 3 gears of learning which are crucial to you achieving the success you want. These gears are just like the ones in the manual car and as each gear is used, it is meant to tackle tougher roads towards success.

Gear 1 is to follow the leader. When we start out to learn something, often we operate at this gear. We seek to learn from somebody, an expert or a person educated in the field.  When we are operating at this gear, it is important to listen and observe the leader.

When we operate in Gear 2, we are equipped with the knowledge and are applying them in areas which are possible. We are able to perform well but we are still dependent on our leader for assistance in areas which are tougher. We are bound to make more mistakes at this stage and so, it is very important for us to learn from them.

Gear 3 is the most exciting one of all. It is when you have become a young expert yourself and you are totally independent and free to try out your own implementations and also improvise on your own. The leader is no longer influencing your actions and it is important that you research and learn on your own. There are even more possible mistakes that you might commit and the road to success becomes an upslope one. You are seeking to achieve greater heights and at this gear, you must be able to not only work independently but also be able to teach others.

Now, which gear you operate at will change according to your level of expertise and it is important no matter which gear you are at, that you continually seek new knowledge and improve your skills in order to maintain in tip-top condition to achieve success.

I’ll be sharing with you the other skills you need to achieve success and do drop by tomorrow to take a look.


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